How to deal with unpleasant emotions without overeating or some similar destructive behaviour

This topic is more than important. Moreover, I believe that this is another unjustifiably omitted, yet a life-scale important, SCHOOL SUBJECT.

So, it is not your fault that no one taught you how to deal with life’s challenges without destructive behaviour. πŸ™

Fortunately, you are intelligent enough and committed to your health that you are ready to learn how you too can deal with life’s challenges without destructive behaviour. β™₯️ ️

Now let’s bravely swim in these waters as well. Ready? Let’s go – jump into these waves 🌊🌊🌊 πŸ˜ƒ

We will first acknowledge the following:

ALL emotions are positive, and we divide them into two types:

  • pleasant
    &
  • unpleasant

Both types of emotions are POSITIVE because they play an important role of lighthouses.🚦

😌 Pleasant emotions tell us which way to go.

πŸ₯Ά Unpleasant emotions are the alarm lamp on the lighthouse which says that we should redirect our boat in the opposite direction, the sooner the better.

What stems from this acknowledgment is that our unpleasant emotions are our FRIENDS πŸ€—

However, if we are not familiar with this role of emotions, we can easily blame unpleasant emotions while continuing to sail in their waters and then everyone else around us becomes guilty because we had not redirected our ship in the opposite direction, even though we were gently warned by unpleasant emotions. ⛡️ 

If it happens that we have stepped too deep into the waters of unpleasant emotions, by the principle – just so this all passes as soon as possible – we are trying to literally drown ourselves in those waters. πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ

Different people find different ways to drown themselves: alcohol / drugs / tobacco / food / risky activities, etc.

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Now I would like you to imagine yourself out in the open ocean, on the line where two different oceans meet.

The ocean on one side is cold, while the ocean on the other side is warm.

The cold ocean is cold regardless of whether you swam in it or not. In other words, it’s not cold to hurt you, it’s cold because that is the way it is.

And most importantly: that cold ocean does not bind you at all. You are the one who is free to go to the other ocean that is warm.

Here I would like you to realise the following: the cold ocean is outside of you, not a part of you. This way, you realize that the cold ocean will exist even when you cross into the warm ocean. But despite the fact that it exists, its coldness does not impact you, it cannot harm you.

The realization that the cold ocean exists, and that you are at peace with it, while you are completely focused on the warm ocean you have decided to surround yourself in, is the realization that brings you peace. Through this realization you accept the existence of the cold ocean, you do not deny it, you do not try to throw it out / ignore it / destroy it. Just think about it… try to burn down or kill the ocean πŸ˜… – it will drown you in an instant!

Likewise, the warm ocean is not warm in order to please you. It is warm because that is the way it is.

So neither is the cold ocean mean, nor is the warm ocean good. Simply, one is cold, the other is warm, and you choose which one to swim in.

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How do you go from the cold to the warm ocean?

Task: put on paper what the cold ocean means to you.

  1. Is it maybe some relationship between you and a certain person or people?
  2. Is it a matter of attitude towards some material things that causes you unpleasant obligations?
  3. Are there any unresolved connections / discussions / bills from the past?

Tactics for dealing with the cold ocean

  1. Write a 3-part letter to the person who hurt you.

    Part 1 βœ‰οΈ
    State in the first part of the letter everything you feel, everything you think. Shout out to your heart’s content, let all the words you suppressed in yourself come out. Allow yourself to be angry in the first part of the letter. 😑

    Part II βœ‰οΈ
    Then express in the letter that you understand that this person in their true – God’s – image is, in fact, good, compassionate, unconditional love and that this person, probably unconsciously, struggles with their own challenges, and in their clumsy swimming through the ice-cold water, is unknowingly hurting those around.

    No one hurts for pleasure, but because it is their cry-out to be loved or saved.

    Part III βœ‰οΈ
    Write:
    FORGIVENESS TO YOU – FREEDOM TO ME πŸ™

    And with this you have completed your letter. I hope it is not necessary to explain – no need to send it, no need it to show it to anyone. Its sole purpose was to free you. Destroy the letter, congratulate yourself and move on πŸ’ͺΒ 

  2. What is it in your environment that brings you a sea of ​​unpleasant obligations, without even repaying you with the pleasure of unconditional giving?

    What is it in your environment that is not (any longer) a contribution to your life?

    What is it that lies on your chest and prevents you from free breathing? Throw that stone away and finally breathe freely!🌬

  3. Remember – we realized that the cold ocean is not a part of you. Now … imagine all those unpleasant emotions around you.

    You are siting quietly, and they are surrounding you. Let your imagination run wild, give all those unpleasant emotions monster-like characters. And now all those devils are around you, and you are still sitting still.
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    Allow yourself to feel how those unpleasant emotions BURN, and tell them
    This is the strongest you can .. huh, weak! Is that all you can?

    And then allow yourself to feel them in the strongest heat πŸ”₯ while still sitting still. And now address them again, this time laughing right in their faces.

    And now see them transforming in front of your eyes, and watch an unexpected MIRACLE! Exactly what you couldn’t even imagine.

    Instead of remorsefully leaving you, their sinister characters
    πŸ‘ΉπŸ‘ΊπŸ˜ˆπŸ€‘πŸ‘»
    change into beautiful smiles
    πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜€ who tell you:

    We have finally succeeded! We have turned a carbon into a diamond!

    As for you – hehe – be proud of your new glow πŸ’ŽπŸ™

If all you knew so far was how it is to be in aΒ cold ocean, how can you know what is like to be in a warm ocean?

In order to move from point A to point B, you must already be in point B in your mind.

πŸ‘‰ Thoughts create emotions
πŸ‘‰ Emotions determine the frequency at which the body is vibrating
πŸ‘‰ By changing the frequency of the body, we change the frequency of the environment around us

But … how do you know what thoughts, what feelings you need to have to feel the warmth of the ocean around you?

If in doubt, ASK! πŸ˜‰

Ask the following questions:

  • What does a harmonious relationship with people look like?
  • How does it feel to be surrounded by people / things / events that lead me to only inspired actions that bring joy?
  • How does it feel to close the door on the past and focus on the future?
  • How does it feel to live gratefully in the present moment?
  • How does it feel to live in a state of GRATEFULNESS? πŸ™

And let your brilliant mind find its answers slowly but surely. βš›οΈΒ οΈ

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And only now, when your relationship with the cold ocean has been healed, and you have led your mind onto the path of searching for a new state of being, it is up to you to simply indulge in the waves of joy that will take you over to the warm ocean.

Enjoy the warm ocean, but know… Β even that warm ocean is not a part of you. Nor does it exist for you to be happy. In fact, the warm ocean will be part of your reality only as long as you feel happiness and gratitude in yourself, independent to the ocean around you.

Both cold and warm oceans exist because they exist, and you are the one who is behind the driver’s seat of your ship. Sail well my friend. β›΅οΈπŸ™

For your health,
Marina from Health Glows
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